Fair Play Facts

          Honesty has a power that very few people can handle.                                                            Steven Aitchison After spending the last four years dissecting and dealing with the outrageously dishonest souls within Florida's system,  I have come to the realization that the reason there are so many out of control elected officials, not only in Florida yet in our country, is because they have been dishonest for so long they wouldn't know  honesty if  it ran them over on a sidewalk!! We have congested being honest with fear. The  reality of a truthful conversation or speaking your truth honestly , has been disallowed, which has given those of power and the general population the ability to act and do as they want. The very purpose for their positions or life,  becomes a big lie, ignoring the truth. It has given others a reason to take advantage or to make others feel obligated vs being honest about their feelings. Leaving a path of fear of offending an

               They never leave us, so feel no pain!                                                   Feel no pain blog, Nov 19, 2022 I sometimes get asked, why do you hashtag Gods watching closely? Great question and somewhat easy to explain. The phrase was delivered to me from my mom, after her death. I can hear you atheist now, yet I can assure you that this was just the first step in my process of connection. I was grateful that my mom kept her promise to come to me after her passing yet I never expected it in this form. Within weeks of her death my then 2 year old parrot started to say "JoJo's got a friend", simple but I had never taught her that. Soon after,  my sisters prompted me to think of a question, never to speak it out loud, wait for the answer, if it was her, she would answer the question. So I did, the question was; are you happy? I never spoke it, I thought it. About a week later, while relaxing, JoJo was agitated and dragging her beak, I tried to get u

     "Evidence can go missing for many different reasons"                                          Florida's Ethics Commission Board I cannot even believe that I actually have this in writing. This response pounds in the proof that Prosecutors are running rampant. This response is to my complaint to Florida's ethics commission on the rogue, rampant, Clearwater Fl.,  prosecutor,  who tampered/obstructed with an over abundance of evidence in a homicide!  Missing witnesses, missing supplements, missing audio, missing cop who took audio, missing transcriptions. This behavior is not only going on in Florida, yet Florida is rabid with state attorney's, assistant state attorneys and average everyday attorney's running rampant! There are prosecutors all over the country doing the same thing, they are mistakenly feeling comfortable shielding each other. A brotherly type love, a kinship that leads to rogue behavior. They lie for each other  and to themselves!   This par

      It Always seems impossible until it's Done                                                            Nelson Mandela I've heard it over and over...You're still dealing with this? Why do you keep going! The reality is when bad people do bad things, you must fight back, simple isn't it. They're all around us, liars, schemers, frauds, payoffs, scratch my backers, people who will do anything to better themselves in position, wealth or just in their minds.   I find it curious just how little support or positive encouragement I get and I now understand why this type of behavior has been going unchecked. People want to live in their own reality , they are afraid of the unknown, afraid to say anything, only wanting to exist in their little world. That being said, this is exactly why there are so many bad people. In their reality , no one says or does anything about the actions, so why not! Go ahead let this homicide committer go, take care of the evidence, get rid of

  Once upon a time, there was protection for the people of the USA, in this document called the Constitution that was established to protect the people. I became acquainted with this document by no choice of my own.  It is through this acquaintance that I have become aware of how many elected officials use parts of this document to their benefit or so they think. The big one is the 5th Amendment which was often used for those who where accused, tried and found not guilty. It was a protection from double jeopardy. But what if rogue prosecutor's use the 5th amendment to benefit themselves? To help them "scratch a back" or make a little extra something, something? To wrongly protect the guilty by tampering, obstructing to set up the innocent to appear guilty. How many cases have we seen, Epstein for one,  where the prosecutor appeared to being his job yet was protecting him? Who is there to protect the innocent from rogue, deceptive prosecutors? The 5th amendment     LEAR

  Sometimes, and I mean only sometimes, I allow myself to feel the pain of the life I have left behind. Not only with the death of my husband., I allow myself to go back, far back to all that I have lost in my life and the pain, sorrow that goes along with it. I think of all of the love I have had, I look around now to a somber space, filled with a fraction of response.  The life, love, animals, parents, family, friends, fun... have all moved on to other pastures or the other side.  As  I was reflecting, the feeling of loneliness, of course, followed. I was thrust back in to the decisions of my life and how pain was the reason I made so many choices that would protect me from pain. I did not want to allow too much into my life because I could not bear the pain of losing it. So be it! We all have painful experiences, we all reflect on our lives and the loss we have endured. It's within all of us, that somber space has been felt by so many before me. My Mom, Aunts, Uncles, Dad, sibl

                                " A Warrior never worries about his fear"                                                                                                             Carlos Castaneda Love this....yet is conquering fear the only quality in a warrior ? So many of us have to deal with fear everyday, are we all warriors ?  I get many messages of support on my path and many say I am a warrior , my fight is admirable!  I appreciate and admire these messages as they really give me the push I need yet I have to ask myself, what is a warrior ? How many warriors have in the past and present affected me? Not everyone fights fear everyday, some let it control them, so being a warrior  may be a trait we all have but not everyone can get there. Could a woman who's breast cancer reared it ugly head and she stood up to it, only to become a reiki master, be a warrior ? What about addiction? One who changes their life by releasing addiction and moving on, remembering but ne

  Whatever happened to " going on " after a death? Remembering days gone by, my thoughts go to growing up and my family would embrace the passing, not without sorrow but we always kept that soul close to home, never forgetting the experiences we had. Sometime between then and now, it seems death has become a time to "move on" and at some point, some feel the need to remind survivors that their child, spouse, friend, is in a better place. Is it really a time to move on? Does it matter that they are in a better place?  This topic is a big annoyance to many who have experienced loss and I am one of them. Everyone expects that after a loss you will come out of it unscathed, the old you will not change, you will get over this quick and the thought that they are in a better place will help you move on. All death does is change everything, if some want to keep the memory alive, it is their choice. When we "move on", we go forward and leave everything behind us. W

  It has been a long time since I have used the word dating yet  through the urging of family and friends, (who don't want me to become an old maid), I considered and have dated  recently, yet there is something missing.  Back when I dated  years before marriage, it was fun! There where no questions on what the game plan was, the ultimate goal was apparent!! When the rhythm was right, it was the greatest experience and when the man I dated seemed to be off course, the dating stopped. The ultimate goal was a committed relationship, for both sides. Be it through marriage or just a commitment. When did this change? I now hear statements and words like companionship, friends with bene's, we do splits, I don't like to travel, this is who I am and i'll never change...Ugh the chaos!!  Why does anyone date after marriage or as we age?? Is it only about companionship to date ? What is the point, get a pet? If the other party is now established in a non relationship, they don&#

  ~ All God's angels come to us disguised ~                                                              James Russel Lowell    A beautiful sentiment yet is it really true? Are angels  there yet we just can't see them? If angels are here to guide us, why the concealment? Do angels reveal themselves to those they trust or is their existence to remain a mystery.  So much to ponder when you actually think about it. Just like when I started noticing angels hovering over my house. These beautiful cloud formations that seemed to be watching me for weeks. These angels where clearly there for a reason, which it turned out the reason was the upcoming homicide of my husband. The angels seemed to be protecting me, watching me before and after his death. Over the next 5 years my angels made appearance many times and most times when I was dealing with unsavory characters or stress. The ultimate urge to snap a picture of the sky in Clearwater, Florida after dealing with a soulless creature

Recently, I was reminded of the fearful world I once lived in, when the potential buyer of my home backed out because a resident gave her negative information on the management.  A home that would give her everything she was asking for, yet she allowed one person create fear. This brought me back several years ago, when I had to make a choice to stay in my home of 23 years or go. I knew I was put on a path yet, unsure of what was going on.  I learned quite easily that I must trust God on this one. I had no clue what I was doing, I had no idea where I was going and if I would even sell my home. So I gave the fear to God and expressed everything I loved about my life and everything I would miss. I was also sure to mention things that I may like to happen but was not really sure. My deal was that if the home sold in 2 months then I would go, which it sold in a day and I was on my way to the unknown. To meet new people, to learn a new way. Always trusting, patient and excepting of what was

When I look back at my life before Franks homicide,  I realize that almost everything from my past, schooling, jobs, relationships, was a stepping stone, strengthening my survival instincts for what would be the next adventure in my life. I never expected to go from an interior designer to what I am now, which is very hard to put into words yet, I think advocate, corruption fighter, would describe it best. As I proceeded through the loss of someone I loved dearly and excepted my new path into the unknown, my survival instincts changed.  No longer did that nice paying job mean anything, the concern of holiday's or test results or even what vacation I would go on...it all dissipated. I knew, my soul knew, that I had to embrace this or one day I would have to do it again. We all must realize that change for good or bad is there for us to learn from. Do it right or  do it over!    With survival mode on, my past experiences and knowledge flew into the forefront and I was then able to ap

As I glance forward, I see the tip of the mountain , the mountain that I have been climbing for years.  It's there and appears close yet the only way I can get a grip on how close, is to look at the path behind me. It was full of debris, mud, holes, jagged edges, drops, and loops. Now, t he path behind me on this what appeared to be exceptionally large mountain is cleared.  Perseverance, self awareness, trust and determination has cleared my way to the top of the place I was unsure I could go. A place that many fear or ignore, the place that's inside of all of us, the unknown!                                                             Through it all, I realized I must except the climb, be willing to fall of the edge and give this monster of a  mountain  everything I had and everything that I was, so I did. Fear is debilitating which is a worse fate than the unknown. Climb your mountain , clear your path and as you edge closer to the top, remember what go you there!

  Recently, while having a conversation with my sister, she brought up the "F" word. A word I became quite accustomed to while going through the wrongful death portion of  Frank's homicide. I heard it from family, my attorney, I heard it in my sleep. The word followed me for years and I gave it much pondering during that time. I am not so sure why some feel that it is needed in order to move on after something distasteful, disastrous or down right dirty happens in their lives  but many do. I guess applying it after people lie to you (little lies) or someone close to you who has made bad choices, is a healthy habit. Yet, thinking that  forgiveness  should be applied to every wrong that has been done, every person who has affected your life for the worse, is not how I roll.  People make choices, some learn from these choices and some don't. Is the reason because many forgive  them for their actions, then their life moves along as if nothing happened, so they repeat the

I see many people engulfed in numerous life challenges, ranging  from money issues, relationship, work problems to complete life changes. These challenges instead of being embraced are creating fear, unacceptance and in some cases depression. All of the signs are there for us to absorb, the signs that these challenges  are part of the ride, a necessary evil in our world of growth and reconnection to one's soul purpose. As life leads us down many paths, why do so many avoid accepting the challenge? Trying to control their path and then get frustrated when they have to repeat it?                                         I was a quick learner after my husbands homicide, I could do this the hard way or the easy way! Embracing what was in front of me, I walked without fear and trusted God. The acceptance that I was being put on a path of deceit, fraud, and abusive souls was for a reason. It was through this acceptance that lead me to strength by not trying to control what was happening. 

  The word "fact"  comes up constantly these days. What may be a fact to one person, may be viewed entirely different to another. The word itself is open to scrutiny, as many view it's meaning as interpretation, yet facts are facts , dreams are interpretation. The word " fact" came to me by chance when creating my business, Fair Play Facts, a guide to corruption 101, but that's another story. Facts meaning is truth, reality, certainty. A word that follows me constantly on my journey. In a world of liars, schemers & unethical people facts are a very tough thing to find. In my world the  facts are clear,   only truths, only reality.    It's a very clear fact that there has been a bad, bad girl in Clearwater Florida. As a matter of fact downright sinful, who lives in her own reality, her own interpretations of truth and alters the facts. Yet there is one fact she never counted on ... she has picked the wrong wife.  And that's a fact Jack. Fairpla

  We've all heard the term " widows brain", we'll at least I have since becoming a widow. I'm not really sure what it means or if it really exists, yet what I do know is that most  widows I have encountered since my solo journey, have this inner urge or need to move or search for a comfortable place or another way. It's hard to put my finger on but it's a sense of being open to anything yet a discomfort in most everything. This place can take months or years to find and many widows travel solo in search of it, as I discovered driving across country only to encounter another  widow doing the same thing and stopped at the same hotel on her search.  It's an inner void that attaches to us. An urge that no one can fill, many times not even family. Our fears become secondary, the connection to "things" are lost and I am not even sure if "things" matter anymore. We become a part of our past and will never be the same, our views on everyth

  Once upon a time we lived in a country that was fortunate to have serious, concerned, unbiased prosecutors. I'm not sure when but somewhere along the line, prosecutors have become deceptive, conniving & untrustworthy. In my experience with lying, conniving prosecutors, it has become very clear to me that this infection or virus that is running rampade in our legal system is a direct result from what I call the "greater then God" syndrome. State attorney's and District attorney's are prosecutors. Just glorified attorney's. When did we the people lose our rights to these glorified attorney's? Did we even know it was happening? There are so many cases in our country that are wheel and deal cases through prosecutors , which leaves them wide open to a hand out or other unethical behavior and leaves the victims or wrongdoers to injustice, which gives the prosecutor the unhealthy feeling of being " greater than God". Currently,  prosecutors are  i